The pain of separation from love - "Playing together in the light of the Buddha's heart"

今日の菅永日記は「愛別離苦」です。一日の始まりに備えるために、最後に呼吸瞑想があります。あなたは愛する人の別れや死別を経験したことがありますか？このビデオはきっとあなたの心に寄り添ってくれるでしょう。(English) Today's Suganaga diary entry is "the pain of separation from loved ones." There will be a breathing meditation at the end to prepare for the beginning of the day. Have you ever experienced the separation or loss of a loved one? This video will surely be close to your heart.

The 91st, the "The pain of separation from love" 2021/4/7 [Daily Suganaga's Diary and Breathing Meditation] Engakuji Suganaga

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”Ai be tsu ri ku"

= One of the Eight Sufferings. The suffering of separation from loved ones, such as parents, children, siblings, and spouses.

In this world, there is the pain of separation from loved ones, and we are always destined to be separated one day from those we meet.

This refers to the sadness and transience of this world.

Buddhist terminology.

The eight sufferings are life, old age, illness, death, and the following four.

Aibetu riku (the suffering of separation from loved ones)

Onzo ueku (the suffering of meeting people you resent and hate)

Gufu tokuku (the suffering of not being able to obtain what one seeks)

Goun jyouku (the suffering of having a thriving body and mind = Suffering that you cannot control, even though it is your body)

1)

A friend of mine told me that the morning edition newspaper carried a story about a 28-year-old Ethiopian housewife named Agelay, whose husband was brutally murdered before her eyes.

It is a sad story.

It is a sad story, sadness and suffering that will never disappear in her lifetime.

2)

At that time, I was reading a book titled "Thinking with Akira Ikegami: What is Death?"

In the book, there was a dialogue between Akira Ikegami and Tetsuzo Iwamoto.

The two answered questions from various people.

3)

One of the questions came from a person who lost a friend in a traffic accident.

The deceased was passing on a road he did not usually travel and was hit by a car, not paying attention to the road ahead.

My friend asked, "Why did he go down that road on that particular day?"

4)

A year has passed since his death.

Yet, she still feels that if he had not taken that road, he would not have been hit by a car.

"I don't want to put it away as bad luck," a female university student said.

5)

In response, Mr. Tetsuzo Iwamoto said,

What is important is how we accept what has happened.

In the Buddhist view, life is absurd* in the first place.

*Absurdity

=The relationship between man and man and between man and the world does not conform to reason and decency.

In other words, the inevitable basis is absent, and everything is based on chance.

6)

Things happen that don't make sense, things that don't make sense.

In other words, things are not going as we want them to.

Buddhism teaches that the essence of life is that it is not as we wish it to be.

That is the true nature of life.

And on top of that, how you live your life after this sad accident is what matters.

7)

In contrast, Mr. Ikegami, from a Christian standpoint, preached that God loved the person who died.

In the book, he also writes that at a Christian funeral, one does not say, "I am sorry for your loss."

For Christians, death is "going to God," not to be grieved but to be blessed.

Ikegami said that the more God loves you, the sooner He calls you.

8)

I know someone who lost his newborn baby.

At that time, I comforted her by telling her so.

I told her that God loved him and brought him into the world, but he wanted to call him to himself as soon as possible, so he was called.

Later, when she told me it saved her, I felt protected.

9)

So I dare to give you the exact words.

I was so glad to hear that.

But, it is not easy to accept such words unless you have strong faith.

10)

This kind of problem is common, but it isn't easy to know how to accept it.

Also, it is difficult to get the message across when it is put in writing like this, but when you say it face to face, with all your heart and soul, and with sincerity, the way it is conveyed changes.

11)

Reading such a book reminded me of an acquaintance who died in an unthinkable accident more than ten years ago.

He was also a very good person who many people loved.

Everyone connected with the deceased thought, "Why would such a good person suffer such a fate?"

12)

I can only imagine the sorrow of the bereaved family.

I was at a loss for words to offer comfort, too.

I told Master Daishin Adachi, the chief abbot at the time, about the situation and asked him to write some words for the bereaved family on colored paper.

13)

After a few moments of contemplation and silence, Master Adachi carefully inked and wrote with all his heart.

"Playing(spending) together (with a dead person), in the light of the Buddha's heart."

"I knew this was the only way," he whispered.

I have always written these words and offered them to the deceased.

14)

There is nothing special about it.

It means that even though they have passed away, they still play together in the light of the Buddha's heart.

At this time, I remember how he wrote the words and the care with which he wrote them.

I thought such thoughtful letters would also convey something to the bereaved family.

15)

In the case of Mr. Ikegami's teaching on Christ, I think it is essential to change our perspective to see God's love for us, rather than looking at death as the only thing in this world that is cruel and inhumane.

In Buddhism, we should not look only at the death of this world but at the truth of this world, which is a change of perspective.

16)

The phrase, "playing together in the light of the Buddha's heart," is not only about death in this world but also about turning our attention to the "light of the Buddha's heart" surrounding us.

Such things are conveyed because of the passionate and deep thoughts of the person who speaks those words.

It must be conveyed by the heart of the person who carefully writes the words.

The "Pain of separation from love" is a sad fact that will never disappear in this world.

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Meditation Part

Now let's adjust your body posture and breathing.

First, with both feet, step firmly on the floor.

Feel that you are supported by this earth and put strength into your feet.

Now, with the feeling that you will stand up, lift your hips 5 cm or 10 cm, and then drop them down.

Inhale, squeeze your shoulders, lift them, lift them, lift them, and drop them down at the same time as you exhale.

Again, inhale, squeeze shoulders, lift, lift, exhale, and drop.

First, exhale powerfully for one breath.

At this point, exhale to expel all the air from the bottom of your stomach.

Open your mouth and breathe to let out all the worries and anxieties you hold in your chest.

Then, close your mouth, and fresh air will naturally flow through your nose.

You will feel fresh air filling up your belly below the navel.

And as you feel the fresh air spreading to every corner of your body, you will feel.

You will naturally smile and feel grateful and happy.

After that, close your mouth and sit quietly, watching the breath come in and out through your nose.

(bell sounds)

Thank you very much.

Please accept my best wishes for a good day.

The 91st, the "pain of separation from love" 2021/4/7 [Daily Suganaga's Diary and Breathing Meditation] Engakuji Suganaga

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